I am kind of a person who gets emotionally attach to people so early in the relationship without being sure abt them…
To keep people in my life I have done certain stuffs which only keep them for few days but they vanish when they are satisfied due to which i ended up in self sobatage or this is what I
I am at the same place randomly scrolling otherwise I am waiting for their replies checking apps every few mins doesn’t matter how busy I am …I keep opening apps to check if they have replied or not, and if there’s no text then I get disappointed and ask every damm questions to myself
These people are not someone whom I want emotionally or physically ig i don’t have much options that’s why they are the center of my attention.
If u are in this situation whatt u guys do .sorry I am putting on this community, I am new here so not sure abt how to use this app much
Thanku for reading :-)
I have done certain stuffs which only keep them for few days but they vanish when they are satisfied due to which i ended up in self sobatage
Is it possible for you to elaborate on that? Doesn’t sound like a good way to make friends. Maybe stop trying to please people who just use you?
Somewhere I think getting people hooked is give and take , mostly these are guy friends and just to please them I get them hooked through sexual stuff. Realising these stuff I am trying not to do more
Yeah you should never feel pressured to do sexual stuff just to earn platonic affection. This only leads to transactional relationships. Maybe try to keep sexuality out of the equation when you seek friends.
How can I do that, why would someone without any benefits can be with you…?
Are you seriously asking why people would want to be around you when you don’t fuck them?
What do you want from others which isn’t sex? Other people have similar goals. I don’t have sex with most of my friends, but we talk, go outside (hiking, swimming, walks, …), watch movies together… Countless things you can do apart from sex.
Will try to get back to some people
Sounds like a good idea :)
Hope you don’t mean the people you had sex with for attention, but actual nice people?
Not for sex .😭 Just to explore stuff and go out somewhere
You already found the solution: get more friends and hobbies (aka options).
Yeahhhh …even i want to do that. But idk how to reach out or meet new people Bcz I am in gurls college and i barely made their friends never had guys interaction,it’s mostly through reddit
Now I am not there so i barely make Friends
In short i don’t have much interaction with people
How old are you, older than 18? I have made good experiences getting to know other people through “dating” apps like Boo, where you can set your preference to only meet friends.
Be extremely careful though, people you get to know through the internet might not always have the best intentions and/or lie to you.
If you’re not completely introverted you can also try to join a club or go to events you like, e.g. conventions. Many fandoms and communities have dedicated Discord channels or other chatrooms where you can get to know people before. The same caution should be applied there, obviously.
Why aren’t you in college rn? Maybe you can try to get back there and talk to people? Did you make some friends there? Are you in contact with them?
I am in college,it’s my last semester there ,last exam actually I do have classmates but not friends. Childhood friends got busy in their life and my existence doesn’t matter for them.
I am 20 rn ,i tried Boo but being in a dating app doesn’t sounds good to me idk why my inner voice was like i am not made for this.i want genuine connection not on a dating where people are trying to find their prey
Somewhere my self-esteem doesn’t allow me to do all this stuff It’s more of like why would someone love me,I am not beautiful I am not good at anything
Is the reason is only my body and if their purpose gets fulfilled they will throw me out … !!
I do have classmates but not friends
Maybe there’s a way to turn classmates into friends? Especially since it’s your last semester…
It’s already ended i have my last exam a day after tmrw.
i want genuine connection not on a dating where people are trying to find their prey
Yeah, that’s the shadowy side of those apps. I guess for 100 people who want to fuck you you’ll find 2 who want to be friends with you.
Somewhere my self-esteem doesn’t allow me to do all this stuff It’s more of like why would someone love me,I am not beautiful I am not good at anything
You’re probably beautiful and I’m pretty sure you’re good at something. But both of these are irrelevant for finding friends. People shouldn’t care if you’re pretty or resourceful. If they only like you for looks and things you can do for them, they’re not real friends.
Hey reactived my boo account Let’s see what happens
I’d recommend putting both in your bio and your search preferences that you seek friends and “no, you can’t try anyway”, and rigorously sort out people who don’t respect that.
Suree will do that Thanku so much
Find a hobby you enjoy doing and go do it.
I met a tone of people through park run
https://www.parkrun.com.au/events/events/#geo=-0.06%2F0%2F48.8
It’s outdoors exercise and all you need is a pair of shoes.
Sure Wil try to get back myself in some hobbies Thanku
What hobbies do you currently have? Are there any you want to try soon?
Don’t have such hobbies i enjoy I wanna get myself back to workouts or some sports
Great idea! Which sports? Maybe you can do some team sports or get to know people while working out?
I usually do home workout 🥲 And will try to get back to boxing or basketball if I will be able to find someone otherwise boxing in home
