I am kind of a person who gets emotionally attach to people so early in the relationship without being sure abt them…

To keep people in my life I have done certain stuffs which only keep them for few days but they vanish when they are satisfied due to which i ended up in self sobatage or this is what I

I am at the same place randomly scrolling otherwise I am waiting for their replies checking apps every few mins doesn’t matter how busy I am …I keep opening apps to check if they have replied or not, and if there’s no text then I get disappointed and ask every damm questions to myself

These people are not someone whom I want emotionally or physically ig i don’t have much options that’s why they are the center of my attention.

If u are in this situation whatt u guys do .sorry I am putting on this community, I am new here so not sure abt how to use this app much

Thanku for reading :⁠-⁠)

  • noturtype@lemmy.zipOP
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    2 days ago

    Yeahhhh …even i want to do that. But idk how to reach out or meet new people Bcz I am in gurls college and i barely made their friends never had guys interaction,it’s mostly through reddit

    Now I am not there so i barely make Friends

    In short i don’t have much interaction with people

    • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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      1 day ago

      How old are you, older than 18? I have made good experiences getting to know other people through “dating” apps like Boo, where you can set your preference to only meet friends.

      Be extremely careful though, people you get to know through the internet might not always have the best intentions and/or lie to you.

      If you’re not completely introverted you can also try to join a club or go to events you like, e.g. conventions. Many fandoms and communities have dedicated Discord channels or other chatrooms where you can get to know people before. The same caution should be applied there, obviously.

      Why aren’t you in college rn? Maybe you can try to get back there and talk to people? Did you make some friends there? Are you in contact with them?

      • noturtype@lemmy.zipOP
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        1 day ago

        I am in college,it’s my last semester there ,last exam actually I do have classmates but not friends. Childhood friends got busy in their life and my existence doesn’t matter for them.

        I am 20 rn ,i tried Boo but being in a dating app doesn’t sounds good to me idk why my inner voice was like i am not made for this.i want genuine connection not on a dating where people are trying to find their prey

        Somewhere my self-esteem doesn’t allow me to do all this stuff It’s more of like why would someone love me,I am not beautiful I am not good at anything

        Is the reason is only my body and if their purpose gets fulfilled they will throw me out … !!

        • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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          1 hour ago

          I do have classmates but not friends

          Maybe there’s a way to turn classmates into friends? Especially since it’s your last semester…

        • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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          1 day ago

          i want genuine connection not on a dating where people are trying to find their prey

          Yeah, that’s the shadowy side of those apps. I guess for 100 people who want to fuck you you’ll find 2 who want to be friends with you.

          Somewhere my self-esteem doesn’t allow me to do all this stuff It’s more of like why would someone love me,I am not beautiful I am not good at anything

          You’re probably beautiful and I’m pretty sure you’re good at something. But both of these are irrelevant for finding friends. People shouldn’t care if you’re pretty or resourceful. If they only like you for looks and things you can do for them, they’re not real friends.

            • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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              6 hours ago

              I’d recommend putting both in your bio and your search preferences that you seek friends and “no, you can’t try anyway”, and rigorously sort out people who don’t respect that.

            • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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              20 hours ago

              Great idea! Which sports? Maybe you can do some team sports or get to know people while working out?

              • noturtype@lemmy.zipOP
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                8 hours ago

                I usually do home workout 🥲 And will try to get back to boxing or basketball if I will be able to find someone otherwise boxing in home

                • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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                  6 hours ago

                  There’s some public yoga in parks sometimes, maybe check your town’s event calendar or facebook or something. Plenty of stay at home moms needing exercise aswell.