I am kind of a person who gets emotionally attach to people so early in the relationship without being sure abt them…

To keep people in my life I have done certain stuffs which only keep them for few days but they vanish when they are satisfied due to which i ended up in self sobatage or this is what I

I am at the same place randomly scrolling otherwise I am waiting for their replies checking apps every few mins doesn’t matter how busy I am …I keep opening apps to check if they have replied or not, and if there’s no text then I get disappointed and ask every damm questions to myself

These people are not someone whom I want emotionally or physically ig i don’t have much options that’s why they are the center of my attention.

If u are in this situation whatt u guys do .sorry I am putting on this community, I am new here so not sure abt how to use this app much

Thanku for reading :⁠-⁠)

  • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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    1 day ago

    I have done certain stuffs which only keep them for few days but they vanish when they are satisfied due to which i ended up in self sobatage

    Is it possible for you to elaborate on that? Doesn’t sound like a good way to make friends. Maybe stop trying to please people who just use you?

    • noturtype@lemmy.zipOP
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      1 day ago

      Somewhere I think getting people hooked is give and take , mostly these are guy friends and just to please them I get them hooked through sexual stuff. Realising these stuff I am trying not to do more

      • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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        1 day ago

        Yeah you should never feel pressured to do sexual stuff just to earn platonic affection. This only leads to transactional relationships. Maybe try to keep sexuality out of the equation when you seek friends.

          • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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            1 day ago

            Are you seriously asking why people would want to be around you when you don’t fuck them?

            What do you want from others which isn’t sex? Other people have similar goals. I don’t have sex with most of my friends, but we talk, go outside (hiking, swimming, walks, …), watch movies together… Countless things you can do apart from sex.

              • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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                20 hours ago

                Sounds like a good idea :)

                Hope you don’t mean the people you had sex with for attention, but actual nice people?

                  • Helix 🧬@feddit.orgEnglish
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                    6 hours ago

                    Yeah but I meant, I hope you’re not trying to go out with people who in the past just used you for sex. This might lead to unnecessary pressure.