Good thing they have stopped it then

I hope the leaders of all the countries involved in this conflict die in some kind of old fashioned honor duel. I think that would be swell.

That’s a very interesting article but does 2019 qualify as “the other day”?

What does it matter? They said we went to Venezuela for the oil and nobody did anything about it. They know they can say what they want and Americans will never hold them accountable

“The bombings will continue until peace is achieved” is one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard Trump say, and that is saying a lot

You’re presenting additional nuance as if it disproves what I’m saying and it doesn’t. I understand that overcomimg any addiction is more difficult than saying “I’m going to stop this behavior”. However, any approach you decide to take is fundamentally just breaking down that ultimate goal into practical steps. I’ve repeatedly said I agree that there are usually more steps involved but you seem categorically opposed to agreeing that changing your behavior is the goal of any addiction treatment and that seems like a you problem more than a problem with anything that I’m saying.

Of course it is. Do you think “misogyny exists in real life” is a novel idea to anyone old enough to know what that word means? You can’t opt out of being exposed to it in real life though so unless you’re proposing suicide as a solution I’m not sure how that’s related to what we’re discussing. Dumbass.

If you just say “stop using this thing you like” without an actual motivation behind it, you won’t have any more success than if you put a pack of cigarettes on the kitchen counter of a smoker and say “Don’t you smoke these! It’s bad for you!”

First of all, it doesn’t sound like these people actually like these platforms. The article in the OP is about a girl describing the pervasive abuse she experiences while using them. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to say in response “you’re clearly not enjoying this so just stop doing it”. Second, that is fundamentally sound advice to both this girl and the person smoking in your analogy. The fact that both might be hard habits to break doesn’t make the solution any less simple. Simple != easy.

you’re ignoring the massive wall of incentive pushed on people by capital forces to use the largest, most commercially active platforms

No I’m not. I specifically called that out in my response. As I said, avoiding them as the solution may not be easy but it is simple in concept. Maintaining your health in all forms is hard to do but the steps to follow are not complex.

I can’t really follow what your imagined argument is about

I have seen people in this thread and others use that argument as a way to sidestep the conversation at hand and pivot to something more juvenile and uninteresting. I added it to head off that line of thinking and prevent this from trending in a pointless direction. If you weren’t about to say something like that then feel free to ignore it but I wanted to make it clear I’m not interested in going down that path with you or anyone else reading the thread and considering replying.

This isn’t realistic to tell a kid who uses social media

Sure it is, you just don’t like the answer. Which is strange coming from someone who is presumably on Lemmy because they didn’t like the way reddit was conducting business and decided to leave. You moved to a competing service, it’s also an option to just not use those types of social media at all.

This thread has real orphan-crushing-machine vibes to it. Many just take for granted that of course kids have to use social media. They don’t and neither do you. It’s not the path of least resistance but why would you expect taking care of yourself to be easy in a society designed to do everything possible to beat you into submission and extract value from the lifeless husk that remains?

“But but Lemmy is social media and you participate here. Curious.”

No, not in the same way that Instagram and the rest are. Pseudo-anonymous forums are fundamentally different both in the way people interact with one another and in the types of content they tend to generate.

Haha do what works for you. I was able to get into them after a long car trip where I forced myself to listen to an audiobook. After finishing it it got easier and easier the more I did it. Now I barely read physical books.

Not off topic at all. I have never heard of it but it sounds interesting. Thanks for the tip

Haha I get that. I was the same way for a long time but gave them another shot a year or so ago and now I’m hooked. They are so much more convenient than physical books

Nice, it sounds like you’re learning stuff just fine. I recommended it elsewhere in the comments here but if you’re looking for audiobook sources I suggest checking out libro.fm. They give half of your purchase price to a local bookstore of your choice and you can download the files in multiple formats with no DRM.

Libro.fm seems to be a solid paid service. They give half of your purchase price to a local bookstore of your choice and you can download the files in multiple formats with no DRM.

Set up audiobookshelf via docker. I like using portainer to manage docker containers because it has a GUI. Command line stuff is more difficult if you don’t have the background experience to go with it. I think doing it all in a GUI feels more comfortable for most people.

Docker can also be kind of intimidating if you are just wading into the self hosting world but it really is much simpler to use once you get the hang of it. Portainer helps a ton with that. Audiobookshelf would be great to start with both imo because it’s a pretty basic set up. You have to define a storage location for your library and config files and that’s about all it takes to get it up and running.

I recently got into all this and remember well what it was like to feel out of my element so feel free to ask questions if you have any. I’m no expert but I’m happy to share what I can.

I didn’t do anything different in my response to you than you did to me but OK

I don’t disagree with anything you said, except your classification of those actions as rational. I think framing the world and responding to it the way you described is completely irrational.

Rich people don’t give poor people stuff, even if it means they get more stuff too. They aren’t rational actors. They have what should be already, and will one day be, classified as a mental illness.

I’m a man and I’m not laughing.

You don’t have to say it, I was already leaving.

To be fair, at that point we already knew he was a rapist. The new information was the gay stuff. Of course that’s going to be the most interesting part to everyone