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Brushing your teeth in the shower is like leaving the water running while you brush in the sink, except even worse.

I think technically that counts as gruel. Don’t get me wrong, though, I’m all in favor of gruel, and the kind of thing your doing, but it’s a fun word to use.

I sometimes do something like this too, cooking oatmeal with extra water, some Better then Bouillon, some chopped onion, carrot or whatever vegetables I have handy. Maybe hot sauce or whatever spices I’m feeling. I haven’t done this in a while, thanks for reminding me, we’re getting into good weather for this kind of thing!

If you don’t mind the smell and smoke, you can save money by making candles out of tallow like our ancestors.

Homesteading is a much more apt analog then prepper. We are digital homesteaders.

Give each person a folder in which to stick whatever loose sheets they are currently working with. Keep these folders plus whatever music books are relevant on a shelf. Tell each person to put their shit away when they are done.

There can be another folder for sheets people fail to put away. Your wife can just stick everything left out into this folder when stuff gets left out and she gets annoyed. People will learn they have to look through all the shit in this folder to find their stuff if they leave their stuff out.

She sounds confused about what she feels and wants.

That’s the one aversion I never got over. I’m not unhappy about it either, if there’s to be a thing I can’t ever drink, that seems a pretty good choice.

It’s funny, it seemed like blackberry brandy was a popular choice for getting fucked up underage drinking back in my day. But I don’t think I’ve ever encountered an adult use of it. Never knew anyone to drink it, or ever saw it in a cocktail recipe.

That is a deep fundamental problem in our culture. Not recognizing the immorality, even grossness, of casually weilding the kind of sums of money that can buy and sell other people.

And it’s relative, and many of us are guilty of it, and even if we recognize it, most off us can say, well I’m not as bad as those people, pointing to those above us. Most westerners, even fairly poor ones, are in that position wrt people in other parts of the world.

I’m neither blaming anyone, nor letting anyone (including myself) of the hook. That’s beside the point. We need to change our culture’s understanding of this. How, idk, except that every time we can point at it and say WTF!?! we should.

It is sometimes recommended that each person have TWO toothbrushes to ensure that it dries thoroughly between uses. You don’t want to be culturing your mouth bacteria on your toothbrush.

You also don’t all have the same mouth biome, because you likely have different oral hygiene habits, diets, etc. So no, you don’t want to share toothbrushes, those of you with less healthy oral biomes may be giving undesirable stuff to those of you with healthier ones.

I used dandruff shampoos for most of my life. My dandruff is the best it’s ever been since switching to a shampoo and conditioner that are slightly acid of neutral instead of basic like nearly every other shampoo.

Your skin is meant to be slightly acidic. Constantly assaulting its pH is not ideal. Yes it reasserts its normal pH pretty quickly afterwards but being gentler with your skin can help with some issues.

I’m pretty sure giving the finger is entirely cultural. If you met a human from a group with no contact with the rest of the world, I don’t think the middle finger would mean anything to them, unless they infer something from your attitude and context.

Maybe this person is an asshole and has the reasonable expectation that people will say rude things about them if they can’t understand what they are saying.

That’s an excellent idea! It’s a pretty badly failed experiment.

I would also say it its important to understand and accept that what a person feels is valid even if something it is based on is ‘wrong’. If I hurt you, you hurt, and that is important to address even if I didn’t mean to hurt you, even if I think that isn’t a thing that should be hurtful, even if you misunderstand my motives.

When I act a certain way, you may think it means a certain thing, because that it what it has meant coming from other people, or what it would mean coming from you, or what you believe it is supposed to mean. I on the other hand may not even realize that another could take it to mean something other then what it means for me. It can be hard understanding what another person’s actions or reactions mean, and doubly so because we do not always understand ourselves.

Well if you both understand the problem (meaning the yelling and not listening) you could agree to a ‘format’. Like, say, each having a turn taking for, say 10 minutes while the other truly listens without interrupting even if they believe that what they hear is wrong. That still be too hard and you may need a moderator, to help interpret, and draw attention to areas of misunderstanding. That is much of what relationship councillors do, facilitate communication which admittedly is hard.

It’s always a numbers game. The more times you roll the dice the sooner you’ll see success. The lower the chances the more times you need to roll em.

A general thing you can say about opportunity is to put yourself places where opportunities happen, even rare ones. But sorry I don’t have any advice about where those places are.

Also, non successful attempts can still be learning experience.

As to what I am trying to accomplish: your comments, suggesting you have some theory about how the planets move that somehow scientists have missed, suggests to me some basic misunderstanding about how science or scientific knowledge works, and I’m trying to get at that, to possibly help you see something you are missing.