I got in a political argument with some clown on Facebook. He managed to retrieve my wife’s cell phone number and our home phone which is unlisted and technically just provided by our Internet company that we never use.

None our personal info is really available on Facebook and our profiles are pretty locked down, but he called my wife’s phone a few times last week which she has blocked and never answers. Comes up as anonymous on her id.

He tried our home phone 16 times which I ignored, everything stopped, he called again tonight. I decided to answer. He said he knows where I live my wife and daughters name, and our address. He never gave out that though and that he is coming to kill us. Said that on the line

I have called my local police department. But this is rural Nebraska they said they can’t do anything or have our phone companies run a trace.

Is there anything I can do to figure out who this guy is?

  • fulcrummed@lemmy.world
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    Sorry man, that’s freaky. Dude sounds unhinged. What info do you have on him from Facebook? The info he says he has on you - how much did he actually prove by stating it? Could be that he just got the minimum info and is making the most of it to make it sound like he knows a lot more.

    When you spoke to him, what kind of accent did he have? Did he sound local?

    Can I ask how you know it was him calling your wife? How were you guys able to block his number without being able to view it?

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      Sounded like a middle aged Trump voter. Profile on Facebook was an anonymous account. Here is the account.

      https://www.facebook.com/share/17tf1oeG8S/

      Because she would get a call on her phone and then he would call our home phone, both came up anonymous, she said she spoke once and asked for me he said his name was the name from the account.

      Info was my wife and daughters name. He has my wife’s phone number somehow, and our home phone. He said he had our address but didn’t say it. However wouldn’t be hard to find, live in a really small town.

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        I don’t have a Facebook, so I can’t look at his account, but the *69 (or *67?) features still work to make anonymous calls, and he probably googled your wife’s name which may have had a public post or mentioning a daughter’s name, or through friends. It doesn’t take long but going down those rabbit holes is ready, and finding info is easy.

        Plenty of free sites or apps let you dig up more on people by name, too. That’ll be a good start… However, since they’re already a problem and have a head start, I suggest you just let it go, keep the police report (did you mention the threat to kill?) and maybe follow up. Document all calls even though anonymous, and maybe check if your carrier can block all unknown calls incoming. Don’t get them more riled up than they already are, and hopefully you have sensible home protection (minimum a gun-that you’re familiar with how to use)

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          No home protection. Have a shotgun and.a baseball bat. Live next to inlaws but now worry about daughter coming home from school and hour by herself.

          I think the name they used on Facebook is 100% made up.

          The *67 77 whatever all require a actual home phone service. We just the basic version Kinect supplies with net

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            Never use your real name online, haven’t you learned from creating your first internet account?

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            Maybe some video doorbell or ext cameras? I know how living in a rural area makes it all feel a bit overkill, but might be worth it for situations like this. I buy off brand cameras where I can pop an SD card in it and it’s free. I installed systems for all family when 2020 got with COVID and the riots over George Floyd and whatnot. We’re in Illinois, rural outside Chicago but still affected. We have a lot of crime come out from Chicago too which sucks as people go around through vehicles all over. I’m also a big tech guy so this was simple enough.

            People are too trusting to leave cars unlocked, or too stupid saying locking their door adds a broken window to the lost of things to fix when broken into. However, I reiterate insurance claims and police reports don’t look good when stuff is unsecured.

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              I’m also a big tech guy

              Well you’ll be happy to know that we don’t body shame here.

              We will however relentlessly mock you if you use Windows 11.

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          Yeah bro, america has lost. That happened a couple years ago. It hasnt been safe for minorities or lgbt for quite some time.