I feel it is an obligation for any older folk to pass wisdom to those not-in-the-know of things regarding life. Some people are born directionless and they get lost in their lives and before they know it, they’re knee-deep in debt, they’re in awful minimal-wage jobs, they make poor decisions regarding their love lives .etc
I have several and my more prominent one is;
- Know Your Numbers
This is a key and must-have piece of knowledge. You must know your numbers. How much you’ll earn a month, how much your expenses are, how much is in your bank account, interests and much more. I don’t care if you’ve hated math growing up, you will need to know this. Because going off on guesswork and estimations, only gets you so far before you slip up. Once you slip up financially, missing a payment, you will fall behind faster than you’ll get back ahead or break even. As someone said, everyone is one car repair or medical emergency away from being in poverty.
- Do not get kids in your teens and 20s
Your teenage and young adolescent years, are better spent figuring out who you are and what you want to achieve. Recklessly getting kids with someone who you thought you loved or poor planning are reasons people end up paying child support and having to go to family court and having to deal with custody battles for the rest of their lives. Supporting a kid is $250k PER child, that’s the average, moreso because of the economy. Is it really worth the few minutes of sex at all for that expense?
- Avoid Jail
Going to jail, over anything, is a bad setback to have in life. If you think finding a job is hard normally with the way the job market is, it’ll be twice that if you have a criminal record. That is just shit not a lot will be ignored.
You’ll lose time, you’re likely to lose any jobs you’ve had at the time of going to jail, you may polarize family and friends even. It’s just not worth it, regardless. The more times you end up in jail too, consider your life over.
- Thrift and Thrift Away!
Thrifting can be a dirty word to some who prefer to get things new, which I understand. But it is a money-saver in the long run. For example, my apartment is 85% of thrifted items and I have a hard time recalling anything I’ve spent more than $10 for, aside from select things I bought new because I wanted them new, like some appliances.
Just try not to be a hoarder if it can be helped.
Any pointers or tutorials/videos that you’d recommend on this?
Is it about diaphragmatic breathing?
Or remembering to breathe calmly while exercising or doing things?
In through the nose, out through the mouth. Your nose is the first step in ‘processing’ air for the lungs. It warms, moistens, and filters the cold, dry, and dirty air for you. You exhale with your mouth because it’s bigger than your nose, which minimizes resistance.
Learn to steady your breaths. Practice, and I mean practice, breathing on counts. That’s inhale for X seconds, hold the same amount, then exhale on the same count. Start at 4 seconds, work your way up. You’re focusing on an even breath, so don’t accelerate or decelerate and if your lungs filled up before you hit your count then try again, but slower.
Learn to breathe from the diaphragm, as you mentioned. Expanding your diaphragm gives your lungs more room to expand, thus increasing your lung capacity. Plus it’s always good to be engaging your core muscles in every little way you can.
Practice a cleansing breath. An incredible tool against anxiety and panic, you’re essentially storing a bank of calm for a rainy day. When you’re feeling fine, breathe on counts, but instead of pushing yourself you close your eyes and focus on how you feel while you’re breathing. Do that, daily. Build the association. Then, when you need to settle tf down, you can take that same breath and connect to that same feeling.