Literally just had this exchange with my partner of 26 years. I’m curious about how typical our interaction is in the wider Lemmyverse.
I’m at sixteen years, and I’d definitely have to test the mood before saying that.
One of my closest relationships, we called each other cunt, etc. all the time. Unfortunately, she turned out to be a bit of a cunt.
Married for 7 years, together for probably about 10 total
Can’t really think of a time we wouldn’t have had that sort of exchange.
She’s also been jokingly threatening me with divorce since we got married. I’m pretty sure we left the courthouse holding the receipt for our marriage license joking that we needed to hold onto it in case we needed it for a return. Still have it around somewhere, someday we’re gonna put it in a little shadowbox with “in case of irreconcilable differences break glass” stenciled on it.
Oh, get a room, you two!
I don’t think this has anything to do with time and is more to do with the kind of person they are. I had similar exchanges with my current partner within the first year of our relationship. If the response had been a blood feud as you put it that would have been a good indicator that the relationship was going nowhere.
Obviously it’s not a romantic thing, but also related to the individual’s level of comfort with seeming insults, this is a recent situation that did not make sense to a coworker of mine.
My dad just cut his finger off (non dominant pointer, so either #4 or #5 most important, depending on how highly you rate pinkies) the other day after many, many decades of woodworking and general tinkering. He’s otherwise okay, but it hurt like a bitch and it couldn’t be reattached. He’s mostly regretful, with a touch of existential jolting.
My sisters and I got him a giant foam finger two days after it happened and he laughed his fucking head off. I got a pretty good chuckle on that very day from “hey, 9/10 ain’t bad,” but I’m pretty sure that was mostly the painkillers, because it’s not a good joke.
My coworker told us under no circumstances to get the foam finger and we should just be nice. I get the sentiment, but that would scare the shit out of my dad. For context, after shaving his wife’s head during the course of her chemo treatments, my dad looked at her in the mirror when she was feeling nearly her lowest and said that he’d always had a crush on uncle Fenster, but he’d never expected to get so lucky. She laughed uproariously.
I was raised by these people, so that’s the kind of thing that I say. A relationship with someone who was always earnest would not work for either of us.
Holy shit, I think I love your parents 🤣
If you want another story, when I was a four year old girl, I asked my mother how my dad proposed to her, looking for a fairytale. She told me they’d been together for eight years, so “at that point it was really shit or get off the pot.” This was probably the first time she swore in front of me, and she only did it a dozen times or so ever (though I was twelve when she died, so she was still editing herself).
My dad also separately started hitting a silver quarter with a spoon on the night after their first date, and hit it so many thousands of times over the next several years that he was able to shape it into a ring for her, which is one of the most romantic things I’ve ever heard, but that wasn’t a proposal, so she didn’t tell me that story for several years.
The giant foam finger is such an amazing idea for the right person.
I have had many giggling “fuck you!” “no fuck you!” Arguments in my current 8 year relationship.
We’ve never had an argument that wasn’t funny and ridiculous from both sides.
