• loaf@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    My last ex. Found out too late that she has Borderline Personality Disorder.

    Towards the end of the relationship, I would randomly wake up at nights with her standing over me, waiting for me to wake up so she could scream at me.

    I hope she got the help she needs, but that was awful.

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      Oh man, that brought back memories… my BPD ex would find ways to “”“”“accidentally”“”“” physically harm me and then immediately go “oooooh baby I’m so sorry!! I’m so clumsy and careless!!!” to get away with it.

      Found that out when he came home late, I was in bed and awake because I heard him come in, but I cracked my eyes a bit. He came into the room, saw me on the bed with the hallway light, clearly examined me there, then he threw his whole body FULL WEIGHT onto me with his elbow (he was NOT a small man) and bruised the absolute fuck out of me. Same shit. “Oooh I didn’t see you there omggg!!!” Lying bastard.

      It’s always after they marry you or when it’s most difficult for you to leave when it comes out.

      We are no longer married. 👍

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        I wish I knew! I tried to be as supportive as possible, but they would go from “I love you more than anything” to “I hate you” so quickly.

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          That sounds super intense and hard. I can get incredibly stressed out by situations I can’t control, especially when it comes to greedy businesses. However, in relationships I seem to spend the majority of my energy trying to avoid conflict… seeking out fights seems crazy to me.