Elise

I just listened for amusement

Absolutely adore your pfp

I developed this large world in Neverwinter Nights. I found someone to collaborate with and he stole it and pretended he had made it and put it online. He told me his reason was because he could.

That the whole transgender thing is a conspiracy by the healthcare sector to earn more money.

I’ve got the new ones that also block radiation, they’re on sale for 120$

🤔🤯

Yes my experience tells me that time does heal it, but it requires emotional work.

She’s her own woman and you should listen to her and your friends. We are all just human and none of us are perfect. You don’t sound like the kind of person who would hurt people they love on purpose.

What helps me is to take time away from work and hobbies and the dopamine hits. I go out the door and follow my intuition, not my mind. Then I find a place to stand or to sit and I stay there for as long as I am able to be patient. It has never failed to help me.

Sometimes you just have to wake up and look at the ceiling for a while. And to be brave enough to face your feelings, by directly experiencing them. The only way I can make it go away is by respecting it and giving it the space it asks for within me. That is, I allow myself to feel guilt, or shame, or fear. That’s when it melts away and I can find what I’ve been looking for.

Alfred Jodocus Kwak

It’s a Dutch show that was beautifully drawn and animated in Japan. It still looks fantastic and it takes you seriously as the material is quite mature. It’s about ww2, sort of like deep space 9. There’s a lot of world exploration and adventure and it adresses societal issues. The only bummer is that the gender norms are quite old fashioned so it might not be appropriate for your kids based on your views.

For what it’s worth I think that’s still quite recent and I think grieving is going to be a longer process. Like if you’ve moved on a year from now then that would be amazing, so I wouldn’t focus so much on that right now.

How are you holding up?

Put it in a bank that doesn’t invest your money into the wrong stuff. In fact a bank can loan more money than it has, but there’s a ratio set by law. So for example that could effectively be 30k in arbitrary investments.

If you want to spend it, I’d buy a good bicycle or get my home isolated or sum like that. You could get cooking lessons and proper cookware and stay away from processed foods that generate tons of waste. If you have the space you could grow your own vegetables and have chickens, which eat bio waste. Basically reduce what you buy. You could get tools and learn how to fix things if that’s more up your alley. For example I’ve fixed my Sennheiser headphones several times, but it did need some investment in tools. You could also donate it to a repair café.

Sounds like a many incomplete closures? So you keep talking with each other or where are you now?

Do you have a lot of unresolved feelings? Did you get some sort of closure?

Have you grieved?

She can’t be replaced

Outer wilds

I’ve always loved this one because it gives me a Christmas feeling

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ

Emotional processing. Just sit or lay down for a moment and let that stuff come. Go straight into all of it. Awkward and painful moments. Frustrations… It’ll feel so much better afterward!

Something to avoid would be letting others set your standard. You set your own standard.

Ehh even when I was in school I used foss like blender and gimp. I’ve never had an actual copy of 3dsmax, Maya or photosoup. Been plenty productive with that my entire life.

If the uni has a license what’s the issue lol

Also kinda shitty of those companies to charge educational instutions