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Cake day: July 8th, 2023

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  • Ive been wondering about that myself.

    I think it was the same with reddit. Maybe these types of “forums” are just popular among Germans. But I also feel like on average Germans have a higher tendency towards english content than the rest of Europe. Especially France and eastern Europe are notoriously monolingual. I guess there are probably a lot of dutch or belgian people here (relatively speaking), but those countries are smaller so there arent many in absolute numbers.


  • When I watched the video I immediately knew I was a 2-boxer. “Its just 1000$ more, the mystery box doesnt magically change”. Of course I know it is better to be the kind of person to only take the mystery box, because for me it will be empty. But saying “I would take only one” feels like cheating, like the mystery box would still be empty because the supercomputer knew I was only pretending.





  • Im not sure I completely understand your situation. So you are a trans man, in a relationship with (or at least mutual interest in) another man, is that right? If he sees you as a girl, like that person you mentioned suggests, why would he want to be with you in the first place? I dont think that makes sense. If that was the case though, and he wanted you to be his “girlfriend” and look like a girl, then yes, it would probably be transphobic.

    Regardless, having a preference for your SOs looks is normal imo, and sometimes it can have significant influence on a relationship. Im not sure how I would react if my wife wanted to get a nose ring for example. I dont like them, I dont like looking at them, I dont know why exactly but its just not for me. But does that make me mysogynistic? If it was important for my wife and her self-expression I would obviously respect that but it would lead to some difficult discussions. I cant control that she would be less physically attractive to me and I would need to tell her that and she would need to make the decision factoring that in. Pressuring her or demanding changes in her looks would be wrong, but not telling her my feelings would be too.

    I think you will have to decide between your authentic self-expression and appealing to others. You will need to weigh up how important it is to you, potentially sacrificing a relationship for it, but if its that much of a priority to you then that relationship wasnt meant to be in the first place.



  • The real problem isnt immigration, its how its handled. People arent being integrated into society and the “Germans vs immigrants” propaganda is gaining popularity by that. Most immigrants in recent times are refugees. Sure, it would be “better” if they could stay where they came from, but thats not possible and taking care of them for the time being is the least we could do.











  • Noone can tell if youre a bad person based on this. But youre definitely not the same person as back then. To the better or worse, who knows. Its in the past, you cant change it, but you can make sure that you wont be doing stuff like that (or adult equivalents) in the future. Dont bury the memories, keep them as a reminder but also dont beat yourself up over it too much.