Tailscale funnel is made for this.

Does this mess with DRM stuff? Or do they keep working because it’s the same hardware?

I have node named pve too. Small world.

Twice, because usually it’s two sticks.

In any case, RAM failure is rare enough that quadrupling its chances is not gonna make any meaningful difference. Even if it does, RAM is the easiest thing to replace in a PC. Don’t even need to go offline while waiting for a new stick. Someone who’s got the cash to build that thing in the first place won’t be too upset by the cost of another 32gb stick either, I don’t think.