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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • I take issue with this framing on multiple levels.

    First: our goals should not be to score political points on Twitter: they should be to provide security, dignity, and political rights to the persecuted.

    Second, inviting political activists exiled by a country we materially support to the US is like demanding ICE deport foreign nationals to nicer third countries: it misses the point completely. This shouldn’t happen. And US lawmakers have the power to stop it, so that’s what they should do.

    Finally, the current Democratic leadership is Chuck Schumer and Hakeem Jefferies. Despite highly visible outliers, this whole premise assumes Democrats want to support human rights in Israel. This is like believing that Trump is working tirelessly to bring Epstein’s coconspiritors to justice.












  • I’ve just started having these conversations with my mom, because her mom just passed away at 99.

    My mom isn’t as temperamental as you’re describing, but she doesn’t like talking about death. However cleaning out her mom’s old condo has forced her to think about it, and that’s the lens of the conversations.

    It’s not going to be one conversation, btw. I think that’s the key thing to understand: you’re not trying to figure out how to talk to them about end of life planning one time, you’re trying to figure out how to talk to them about full-life planning maturely from now on.

    I would focus on specific issues rather then a broad concept; relate it to things that others are going through as a reference point; discuss it through the lens of ensuring a long, dignified life instead of about the end part; and try to offer appealing solutions rather than problems that they need to solve.

    For instance, ‘I was just talking to a friend who was visiting their dad, and he had a bad slip moving trash to the curb and is now thinking of moving into an retirement village. I’ve always imagined you guys living here forever, and I wanted to check if that’s what you guys want to do too, and if there are any renovations you’d be interested in to make it more comfortable.’







  • I read the article expecting the same thing, but it said that Microsoft, Nvidia, and Palantir recently released a big statement warning the US not to restrict open models.

    Which is weird. I don’t believe for a minute that you and I are on the same side as those jackals, but I guess they are not as dumb as I expected on this particular day (be sure to check again tomorrow, though).

    This whole thing is stupid and I want this bubble to burst. I don’t look forward to the economic consequences for people like my parents who live on retirement savings, but lord, this whole economic system is just totally cooked and it can’t go on like this.


  • I can speak from experience here, because this actually happened to me!

    My partner (born female) and I married in our late 20s. He was already casually gender non-confirming before we married, and I described myself as hetero-flexible. His transition was rather gradual, with no strict coming-out event, but it was something we discussed openly. After he began presenting as male on work settings, I began identifying myself as bisexual.

    It worked out very well. As the person above noted, you can really call yourself whatever. If you wanted to, you could identify as straight with an exception made for a single person. Although I would advise against it, as your partner might take some offense, and it confuses people if you identify in a way that conflicts with your long term partnership. Most co-workers assume I’m gay because I’m married to a man, and I don’t bother to correct them.

    Sometimes it comes up, because my husband and I have a biological son together, which isn’t a secret. Sometimes when taking about him and genetics, it leads me to explaining all of this. But as you can see, it’s unusual, but not that hard to explain.