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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • You can run nginx in a docker container and define reverse proxies there. That will only require your to open up 443 in your router if you use SSL (which I highly recommend and is simple with Let’s Encrypt)

    Then I’d recommend connecting to your arrs and torrent client in Nzb360 paid edition to manage everything in there.

    As far as safety, well nothing is bulletproof. If they want to get in, they will. Best thing I can recommend is to run your arrs / indexers through a different IP address than your torrent client. But if they want to find you, they’ll find you. Thing is they probably won’t come after you if your ISP doesn’t report you uploading terabytes a day. SSL helps and keeping your arrs behind complex passwords (use a password manager) will keep the server itself relatively safe.

    Unless of course, ISPs in your country suddenly start to crack down on illegal downloading hard.



  • It’s difficult to say, really. It’s a form of acceptance. Accepting that you are who you are, taking things at face value rather than second-guessing everything you hear. I’ve got a decent head on my shoulders and feel more confident in my own abilities.

    It wasn’t until I decided to call in sick from work last September. It was not a great winter to get through and taking a long, hard look at myself, my environment and my past was a very painful process.

    I’ve been pretty aware of the fact that I was in need of psychological help since somewhere around 2018. Since then I’ve taken one step, in 2018, but didn’t follow through. I muddled my way through my last year of college, graduated, worked at a small publisher for about 3 years before moving to my current employer, moved, had a lot of personal stuff going on…

    The step I took last September, to basically hit the brakes, was a turning point for me. But it took until the end of February to actually feel like I was on my way back up.

    So in short: it’s pretty much all about confidence. Once you’ve accepted yourself for who you are, you’ll no longer feel like a burden to others. You’ll most likely also realize that people don’t often judge you without telling you stuff. After you’ve had an interaction, there is no need to wonder ‘oh I wonder what they’ll think of me, what will they think of me saying this or that’. Your overthinking will slow down a bit.

    Couple of caveats:

    • I am very aware of the priviliges I have gotten along my life and I understand not everyone can just call in sick for a year and get full medical support from their jobs, or be able to just freewheel through college;
    • I am still a long ways from where I need to be and I’m starting both therapy with a psychologist and something called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy in group form.

  • I have a colleague who actually behaves in a way that I recognized right away. It is something I used to do a lot; talking like I was a burden on others, like the time people spent with me was time lost for them.

    It takes finding out a root cause to stop this. Me, I’m a perfectionist. This manifests through me being a people pleaser: I hold myself to really high social standards and expect others to also set the bar high for me. I really don’t like it when people are disappointed by my actions, so that causes me to apologize more than necessary.

    I’ve taken stock of my life the last six months and made a lot of progress on this front.

    The best thing she can do to change her behavior is acknowledging she has an issue to begin with. As long is she is happy with her current behavior and you are not, the only thing you can do is explore why she feels the need to be like this and see if she can alter her behavior without distancing herself from who she is.




  • I feel like he doesn’t really understand most of what is happening but he just says the first thing that comes to mind when he hears stuff.

    This is something happening in Europe as well though, you’ve probably noticed it if you follow Dutch politics. There are these people who just yell out stuff that sounds pretty good but once action has to be taken, they find out it’s never as simple as they’d imagined it to be. The end result is they get nothing done and their disillusioned voters are too stubborn to admit that they were susceptible to populism.








  • I am in the hopeful side. Maybe an ASI can quickly analyze our issues and interfere. ASI might spit out any plans to improve everyone’s life but if the people in power ignore all of the advice because they’ll no longer be in power, nothing will really change except now there’s an ASI using huge amounts of electricity.

    Considering how everything’s going, I honestly think an ASI won’t make anything worse happen than the current state of affairs.


  • Until humanity unites there is no ‘we’ who can do anything. We are currently too busy polarising, fighting and reinforcing poverty. If AGI ever arrives, it’ll most likely be weaponised or used to make rich people richer.

    If ASI runs out of control, we can only hope it’ll be a nice god and doesn’t immediately see humans are a disease and try to kill us off.

    It’s, at this point, hubris to assume AGI/ASI wants anything to do with us.