This is insane. Why is everyone redefining the feminist movement!? Why so many “this feminism but”? Feminism is the belief in and advocacy of political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.

Do you believe sexes should have equal rights in society? Yes? You’re a feminist. Don’t be afraid of the term. That means that you bought up the anti-feminist propaganda. It’s like going about saying “I’m against the genocide, but not the kind where I hate the jews or support Hamas or terrorist but I believe in not killing children but of course not the kind of belief where I’d attack israeli sold…” Like wtf is this. That’s the definition. Stop tiptoeing. Call it out when you see it. Help your fellow human beings and keep on with your life.

Not questioning it but it is interesting how it is not seen as problematic to depict and dress as fighting for the confederacy when it was in favour of keeping slaves, but Nazis are too much.

My two cents: Imo the question is deeply flawed. “Win a girl” and “being out of someone’s league” are assumptions that prevent you from reaching a rational answer. It is like asking “which color makes me look more like a french planet?” It just does not make sense. My reasoning is that (as others pointed out) a girl is not something you win, because relationships were never a game. Nobody talks like this about friends, or how to “win” your brother’s trust and friendship. It is a made up “hustler rat” mindset that has permeated through the “winner-loser” trope, and prevents people from seeing the opposite sex as a fellow human being. So then leagues are a deformation of people’s personal compatibility and preferences. Someone “out of your league” could at most be interpreted as “lack of compatible lifestyle, goals, interests, and ideals”. And even those factors in a person change over time as we grow and alter our interests. Sometimes we like calm people around us, sometimes we prefer someone that pulls us out of our comfort zone, or listens and is attentive, reflexive, or conscious about a topic we are also worried about, and so we relate to each other through our way of thinking. And then very often we even fall or become infatuated with the idea of someone that we built in our heads, which seems to happen far too often.

As some other commenters said, the more you interact and show interest and care for people, the more they will surprise you and the more likely you will find meaningful connections, maybe even a relationship. People make the relationship the goal and forget about the people, turning human contact into an empty experience.