

Better to carry a packet with a couple of nitrile gloves … you’re not going to be able to work properly in dishwashing gloves :-/
I don’t know what the opposite of survivorship bias is, but it sounds like your work on claims gave you that. If humans were easy to kill there wouldn’t be so many of us!

Hi, I’m late to the party, but wanted to chip in -
When I was young I was attracted to older women, because of one amazing mentor I had had (for reference, I’m AFAB). When I was out on my own, I met someone who I thought was perfect for me.
She was 17 years older than me, and early-on I was very happy. But she had seen me coming, and over 10 years used me financially, physically, and psychologically.
I just say this to be clear - you know what you want, but you need to be careful. With more life experience, abusive people can easily appear to be what you’re after, while patiently working towards other goals which go against your wellbeing. Usually over the course of years.
I hope you find someone who is right for you, and good for you <3