Everything is by the book. It’s a family business. I have documentation of every single move that’s happened since my arrival, I’m in the financials and business customer and vendor relations. None of what your saying holds any water at all. You simply have misjudged the situation. Likely due to my poor explanation.

Thank you for the feedback. This seems to be the general consensus. What tech stacks would be good given the circumstances I’m now finding myself in. Personally I dislike Google and all that. But this is business. People need to survive and eat.

Right now the admin team is 2 people and mostly myself. The labor side is growing as work flows in. The whole reason I took this job is the stake in the company. Its been around for nearly 3 decades very well established and deep roots in the community. The key players are still in the business and industry tied. They have assets and a good crew. But no real internal structure and infrastructure.

Well the entire business has been ran analog for 2 decades. The problems I am trying to solve are the entire business workflow. Intake to outflow. They use Sage50 for accounting, vericlock to integrate into sage for time tracking software. Beyond that gmail for email. Nothing is connected, integrated.

Everything else business wise is up for grabs. The NAS and paperless was to start scanning in papers and mail and organizing it into something that isn’t piles of paperwork and a mess. Photoprism/immich was for hosting all the businesses pictures of projects, portfolio photos.

We need inventory management for tools to supplies. VOIP phone service which was planning to us FreePBX. They pay for a service Ooma but it’s terrible and 30 a month.

The goal is to establish a work flow for a manufacturing business. From scratch.

I work at the business. In the office. Got a role change. This is on me entirely for now. Nothing I can’t back out of. That being said the point is to streamline and to simply the business workflow. It’s all analog and papers scattered and stacked everywhere for over 2 decades.

Noted. What are some closed source ideas? Give me better solutions or anything over negativity. I am helping a local business.

The value they seek is to privatize their own data, run their own software free of subscription services and pricing, being bound by all the usual constraints of big corporations. Its a small business.

Just think if exterminators. The horror on a capitalist scale.

I have studied this greatly recently. Including strategies and methods to counter and create more symbiotic feedback loops. Game theory, zero sum outcomes, Nash equilibrium. There are loads of studies and detailed analysis on how all of this type of behavior works against us.

It’s fascinating. Humanity has a long long way to go for where we think we should be FOSS and others. We are no where near the capacity of greatness we think we have achieved. Where we are now historically. It’s a facade. Smoke and mirrors on the grand scale. We are in a great transition right now.

Time displayed in different information architectures is interesting and where the real deep learning happens. Not just time but information structuring in general. Time was just relative to this reply. We train deep learning on this. It’s heavy mental gymnastics.

Well we know what people do under stress and it’s a lot of bad shit.

What are some healthy coping mechanisms? Say a top 10.

People who lack self discipline.

Green light rod wave, basically any or most of rod wave.

I agree especially on the last couple paragraphs. She has a tendency to not stick with things and has very low self discipline, accountability, and general drive to do anything. Maybe even esteem issues.

But I’m just hoping that what their trying to convey and share in a safe setting will change the course atleast to a more healthy dynamic because they both seem honestly beyond burned out. I see this as make or break them. Beyond that if she gets to a doctor and they can try to treat her mental health depression and anxiety I think that will play a big factor.

Thanks for taking the time to reply and add your perspective. This is why we decided to make the post and just see how people with different values and backgrounds might have different input.

I did a little research for my own understanding and there’s a lot to this. It’s very personal preference of sorts. While I don’t think I have autism personally, I hate visual noise, clutter, things need to be symmetrical and slight OCD. So I think there is learning for everyone can be had!

I believe the coping mechanisms can be improved. Just because something doesn’t directly apply doesn’t mean you can’t benefit from the advice. I do exactly what you described above constantly. Having to think about what and how to react for facial expressions and body language. That is tiring mentally analyzing all the time. Like being stuck in a certain mode.

I emplore everyone to do a little research into some of the aspects you pointed out above to explore those topics. Whether your autistic or not these principles and strategies could help nearly anyone to dial in there focus and mind.

I know. The response from fellow Lemminites has been pretty spectacular overall. Definitely helped to gain ideas and to gain a different perspective from the outside. I hope it works out for them. Time will tell. Thanks for participating!

Neither of us mentioned any autism or anything, that wasn’t for he nor I to discuss really. I’d leave that for the medical professionals. That being said she is willing to talk to her doctor about the anxiety and severe depression. I’m glad to see that they are going to take the week as individuals to really encompass their thoughts, feelings, kind of a tell all, no hold backs, no judgements type single written letter over the entire week then they planned to get together next weekend and read them to each other out loud and discuss in hopefully a sensible manner.

I think that’s a big win considering they were at each others throats when it came to talking about anything past casual banter. Basically they weren’t talking for weeks hardly at this point months even. It is really a good example of both sides understanding the serious nature and the time for clear concise communication to set a better path hopefully moving forward. He told her that this is make or break and not to instill stress but to show where he’s at ahead of the letters so both parties know the nature and that it’s not a gimmick.

They have done these discussions in the past. My only concern I’ve seen from them or heard rather is that she has a tendency to fall back into old patterns extremely easily and to not stick with the plan but he made a list several excercises and therapy sessions to try privately amongst themselves that promote trust, empathy, even going as far as positive reinforcements.

My only concern is the follow through and if they both don’t approach and commit then I see it best to simply part ways on good terms. Before the burned bridge aspect then things get dramatic and sometimes nasty. Nobody wants that.

I agree with the natural bias aspect and they are trying to work on it. I edited an update shortly ago on what they have come to today. He’s concerned im sure they both are about the burned bridge part as well. Let me know what you think of the update!

I agree 100 percent.

She has agreed to speak to her doctor about several mental health issues. I posted an update above from what I’ve learned today so far. I’ll keep them coming.

I’m unsure in the autism aspect but I guess my thought of autism is more of the severe type. This should be diagnosed and handled by a medical professional to truly know. What are some coping mechanisms that work in general perhaps to try? I know everyone is different she is artistic I do know that.

Not only are they going to read it but I am too. I’m ADHD and have been diagnosed years ago from multiple Drs of mine. They both have it as well but it manifests in different ways due to their natural personality differences. Thanks!

I totally agree with this overall statement. He’s very sharp and focused she’s very flowing sort of lazier, don’t care as much.

Fundamentally there’s differences but part of what I see or understand from him talking it out with me was that rather than having this type of structure that’s needed it’s almost as if she is defensive so he’s defensive and then it sort of kept going like this for a long long time and thus has escalated into deeper rifting issues. Structure is what’s needed

I’m going to show him this and some other replies and I really think this post was constructive and helpful. Due to the cultural and social dynamics of Lemmy some points have been brought up that we never considered. As enshittified as the internet/world has become and the fediverse isn’t perfect there’s some real genuine reactions like the old forum days.