No deduplication, encryption nor support for non-linux operating systems for a start.

Not from my wife if I lose our photo collection which has been building up since we got our first digital camera 20ish years ago.

I have dynamic dns address and a handful of CNAME records on my domains pointing on that dyndns-address so I can use ‘proper’ names with my services. When my public IP changes it takes a few minutes for the records to update, but it usually happens only when my router reboots so it’s been good enough for me.

Also I use two separate dyndns providers so there’s likely at least one working DNS entry to my network.

I’ve always liked the way slashdot handles comment rating. It’s a bit complicated, so maybe that’s why it’s not adopted elsewhere, but it gives a much more fine grained options instead of just up/downvote.

ISP obviously don’t see the traffic inside your own network, regardless of the router used. But as soon as you open any kind of connection over the internet, incoming or outgoing, your ISP has to have some information about it to route the traffic. DNS over TLS doesn’t hide that your browser opens connections to servers, they can see if you use wireguard to access your services (not which ones, just in general that there’s traffic coming and going) and even if you use VPN for everything they can still see the encrypted VPN traffic and, at least technically, apply pattern recognitions on that to figure out what you’re doing. And if you use VPN then your VPN provider can do the same than your last-mile internet provider, so you’ll just move the goal by doing that.

Last-mile ISP is going to be a middleman on your network usage no matter what you use and they’ll always have at least some information about your usage patterns.

ISP can see your traffic anyways regardless if their router is at your end or not. In here any kind of ‘user behavior monitoring’ or whatever they call it is illegal, but the routers ISPs generally give out are as cheap as you can get so they are generally not too reliable and they tend to have pretty limited features.

Also, depending on ISP, they might roll out updates on your device which may or may not reset the configuration. That’s usually (at least around here) made with ISPs account on the router and if you disable/remove that their automation can’t access your router anymore.

So, as a rule of thumb, your own router is likely better for any kind of self hosting or other tinkering, but there’s exceptions too.

My now near adult kids have actually understood and been thankful that their childhood was ‘unfairly strict’ on what they could do on their devices. They have friends who have had unmonitored access to anything on their devices and it starts to show badly enough that even their peers notice how short their attention span is and how twisted their view of the world has become.

There are all kinds of laws regarding on how parents should treat their children and one might argue that keeping non-age appropriate material away from them is a reasonable line to draw into. For example in here with movies it’s pretty common practice (depending on a theater) to allow kids to ‘higher age bracket’ PG-rating with a guardian.

But the whole problem, at least from my point of view, can’t be solved only by either technological or legal barriers or solutions. Parenting is a tough job and from what I can see there’s really not enough support for them to do the job. “It takes a village to raise a child” used to be pretty commonly understood approach where all individuals from school bus drivers and cashiers played their small part on educating kids on how to behave and how the world works. Today it’s just rules and regulations which adults can use to hide behind and avoid taking any kind of responsibility and also, at least on some cases, the same rules say that you’re not even allowed to intervene if kids are being kids and do something stupid.

Obviously a lot of things are better now too than even in the 80s and 90s when I was a stupid kid, but I’d say something is also lost on the way.

I agree. It’s a bit tedious to configure, but rock solid and has all the features you could ask from a proxy.

If they actually worked, sure. I’ve been a parent for nearly 20 years now and at least in here there’s always been some kind of programs, information campaingns, news articles, tools and pretty much everything you can imagine to help keeping your kids safe. You obviously don’t buy porn magazines for your teens and don’t show news from war zones to your young kids and keep eye on the movies/shows they watch, but somehow every precaution is lost when it comes to the internet. I don’t know if it’s lack of understanding in general (as in what you can find from the net) or if it’s just the easy way out since you don’t need to learn how to apply limits on devices, but somehow (at least in here, based on what I’ve seen/heard) it’s not taken as seriously as PG-ratings on physical media.

And in that a system-wide setting on devices which would include allowed PG-rating on HTTP-headers (or equivalent) might be a decent solution. Obviously parents still need to pay at least some attention on the devices their kids use, but that wouldn’t require setting up a pihole on your network which blocks tiktok. However, as I said, that’s helpful tool to the parents only as long as it’s just a field on a local user account for the device, not something you’d need online services to verify.

Technically that would be pretty easy to implement and even if it’s just an extension to HTTP headers that would cover nearly all of the use cases today. Sure, the kids interested in tech could bypass that pretty easily, but that applies to nearly all of the parental controls anyways. But all those benefits obviously vanish if the age setting needs verification from someone else than the parent and it’s not stored just locally in the device. Building systems for adults to verify their age in order to look some bare nipples is a colossally stupid idea, but I’d guess nearly all of us here on fediverse already understand that.

A lot of parents sadly lack any kinds of skills to use those tools nor even know that they exist. I’m not inherently against the approach where user agent sends some rough age (allowed R-rating or something) to the website which can then block minors from accessing porn/violence/whatever. If it was just that, locally stored info if the user is minor or adult, it could be a pretty decent approach to even technically less inclined parents to give some limits on what their kids can do.

But as with nearly every ‘protect the kids’ thing, it’s a pretty damn slippery and steep slope. If adult verification requires something more than a local variable that’s the point when the whole system becomes a tool for surveillance instead of a helpful thing for parents/schools and all of these “solutions” worldwide seems to be going in that direction.

“They intentionally had schoolgirls in a school for girls that we were targeting with missiles in order to give the other guys something to whine about”. I don’t know what kind of twist in thinking you’d need to make that sound perfectly legitimate and good reason.

I’d guess there’s some tools which rely on RSS feeds or something to update seeds automatically, but that’s just a gut feeling. Also it shouldn’t be too difficult to write your own, but I don’t know if anything ‘production ready’ is out there.

Discoverability is one issue and trust for longevity is another. No bigger distribution is going to rely their official download links on an individual home lab which can disappear overnight. Also I guess there’s also guestion if images are provided as is without adding/removing your own ‘extensions’, but that’s what cheksums are for.

And this is obviously on a general level, I’m not trying to suggest that xana is not trustworthy :) But torrent seeding is a helpful thing for community, and easy/safe to set up.

Sound and power consumption. At least in my case those are important if I was going to store data at my mothers house. Power consumption might not matter that much, but HDD sound definetly does. And even with spinning rust hardware cost would be somewhere around 250€ compared to ~20€/month of cloud storage.

YMMV, in my scenario it’s just easier to use a cloud provider.

That absolutely works, but when I built my offsite backup to hetzner I also thought about setting up own hardware and came to conclusion that for myself it doesn’t really make a ton of sense. New RPi + 4TB ssd/m.2 drive with accessories adds up to something around 400€ (if that’s even enough today), or few years worth of cloud backups. With own hardware there’s always need to maintain it and hardware failures are always an option, so for me it makes more sense to just rely on big players with offsite backups. Your case might be different for various reasons, but sometimes renting capacity just makes more sense in the big picture.

I’m using proxmox backup server to make copies of full virtual machines, it takes care of encryption and verification of the data, so it’s not exactly the same than your scenario. Borg Backup is commonly recommended, but restic and dejadup are worth checking out too.

I use hetzner storagebox for similar needs. It’s not encrypted, so you need to manage that by yourself, but they support a ton of protocols and pricing is decent, even if they’re increasing the price shortly.

It’s legal speak. Before judge or jury or whatever they have concludes anything it’s not certain and thus they need to be a bit careful on how they publicly speak about the matter. Just like a murderer is a ‘suspect’ even if they admitted everything with a smoking gun in their hand. Only after conviction they are by definiton a ‘murderer’.

But I’m glad to see international powers in this circus as USA doesn’t seem to have a working legal system anymore. It might be awfully slow for anything to happen, but at least gears are turning.

A slightly different way to think it I guess. I’ve been also learned that intentionally pulling a trigger is not the only way to fire a gun. There’s always a possibilty for the mechanism to trigger if you accidentally bump the gun or drop it or trigger guard can get tangled with something or whatever, so the ‘laser pointer’ part is sort of included in that as you need to be aware at all times where the gun is pointing and how you move around and interact with it.

And it obviously applies to things like chambering a bullet, removing clip from the gun and so on. I’ve personally seen a .22lr pistol to fire when slide was released on reloading, it was a old gun with really dirty mechanism so just the bump from the slide hitting the frame of the gun was enough to trigger it.

But no matter what ever way or analogy you’ve been thaught to work with guns, proper handling does not kill or injure anyone, specially not in your living room.