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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • I learned on automatic but got a manual about 5 years ago. This past November I went on a trip with friends and we were able to rent a manual car for cheaper because I could drive one and it was the norm in the country we were in. Nice skill to have, but not required. I’d learn manual if you have the option.


  • If they’d have not flip flopped, they wouldn’t have alienated both demographics. They make so much fucking money that they could have taken measures to protect employees from psychos that attacked them. Instead they were cowards and gave in. Now they are using the current political climate as an excuse to further enshitify the company.

    I’m fortunate enough that I have options around me. I’m not saying I will do no shopping there, but I will try almost anywhere else but Amazon and Walmart before I bite the bullet.







  • I 100% agree that the changes our former allies are making to be more independent from the US are good for them and probably the world as a whole. I do think the the parallel weakening of the US as a world power is what Putin wants for Trump and his ilk to do. My hope is that the economy is hit so hard and people suffer so much that it spurs change before we’re past the point of relatively short term recovery (5-10 years, not 20+).

    We just need a handful of Republican reps to decide that they don’t actually want to give up all of their power to a dictator and his gang, or that maybe they don’t want to be associated with the Nazi party. Just a few change their mind, impeach, and remove. Maybe the first time a member of Congress eats a bullet outside of their residence because someone reached the end of their rope, others will act out of fear. I’ve got my fingers crossed for who I hope it is.


  • You’re never too old to make new friends. I’m mid 30’s and started a new job in a different city last year. Just talk to people casually, say good morning, ask how they are, just simple pleasantries. I haven’t hung out with these people mostly because of living proximity, but I’m chummy with most, we play some games together, and I think we enjoy each other’s company. I have little doubt that if I asked to hang out or grab a drink, people would do so if available. Most of these people are 5-10 years younger, so we do have a gap in life experiences, but I’ve found that the age gap matter less the older I get. I can give wisdom and tell stories of my life and their lives kind of make me feel a little younger again.

    As someone that has just been screened for ADHD and waiting for my follow-up, I feel like I can relate to your experience. A lot of what you said resonates with my life other than the coke and Xanax. The weed is real, and unfortunately, the booze for me. I’ve gone through plenty of introspection and have identified places where I know I can be a turd friend. I noticed how I was negative a lot, and have taken conscious steps to not burden my friends. Don’t get me wrong, we’ll piss and moan about things, but I had to make the effort to be better. I’m not good and time estimating no matter how confident I am. If I’m meeting with people setting times, I will for sure over estimate what I think is right so I don’t make people wait. Really, my wife has been extremely invaluable in my adult life, and I’d probably be in a much worse place if not for that support.

    I say all of this because as I think that you know, not all all negative actions are intentional or sometimes even recognizable when you’re doing it. I’ve lost sleep over saying the wrong thing or doing something that is a minor inconvenience because I feel so guilty. I feel like from your story, that maybe your friend has issues and isn’t intentionally screwing you. To parrot one of the other posts, I would say talk to your buddy about things that bother you. Don’t come in hot or anything, just ease into it. Anyone that is a real friend will listen to your concerns and at least try to make an effort. Some people are blind to their issues and maybe just needs someone to help them out.

    Best of luck my dude. It’s tough out there and I hope you find your way through this one. Don’t be afraid to meet new people.