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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I’ve spent my whole adulthood working in hospitals. They’re shitholes, every single last one of them. Do every single thing you can to never be in one.

    Drink water, plain water. Eat whole grains and leafy vegetables. Treat red meat like a dessert (and if you’re morally opposed to meat, make sure you’re still getting all your essential proteins). Find a physical activity you enjoy and do it at least three times a week. Either join an organized religion or specifically curate a group of people you do a weekly activity with who will come check on you if you suddenly stop showing up. And while you’re at it pick a mindfulness activity that you either enjoy or that brings you peace (prayer qualifies but so can yoga or a lot of other things). Avoid nicotine and alcohol at all costs. Go easy on the weed, and avoid anything more interesting without guidance from either a medical professional or some kind of traditional expert on those substances. And if a competent doctor listens to your specific situation and tells you to do or not do something I’ve mentioned, listen to them instead of me.

    Decide who you would want to speak for you on your death or near-deathbed. Choose people both trustworthy and level-headed who will put your wishes over their own emotions. Choose multiple people, because it’s not unlikely that any one person will be in the car wreck with you. Talk to those people about what you want to happen or not happen so they can best carry out your wishes. Sign some kind of legally binding paperwork that cements them as the decision maker, especially if your first choice is not the default the state would choose (parent, spouse, sibling, adult child, etc). You can write whatever you want then to do on the paper, but the chosen person will have the right to override it if they think you would want them to. So sign the paper but don’t forget to TALK to them about it.

    And good luck because while this will give you the best odds, the universe might also just decide to fuck you in particular anyway.
















  • I’ve been working in high acuity psychiatry for 10 years. I notice when doors don’t click shut behind me and if I don’t hear a solid click or an electric lock whirring sound I get the urge to check the handle, even at home / in my apartment complex. I can feel people behind me on the street if they’re closer than about 20 feet back. I don’t like sitting without a wall behind me (it was weird going back to school and explaining that my ADHD preferential seating accommodation was the back row, not the front).



  • “Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary?” Shoot for two but make sure it’s at least one. And if you ever by chance come across a trifecta, don’t let it escape unsaid!

    I also notice working in mental healthcare that a lot of my coworkers have realized some of the patients really do need “tough love” but they don’t realize that the Love part is critical. And it’s obviously not romantic love but also not even love in any personal sense. It’s love in the better version of the Bible sense where you should love your fellow human beings. When you say something that someone isn’t going to like hearing for their own good, you need to start with a practical statement of why you’re saying it out of love.

    So I’ll say “I don’t just want to give you ice cream today; I want you to know how to ask other people when you leave here. I’m going to give you about fifteen minutes to go to your room and breathe, then you can come back and get in line and ask again.” While some of my coworkers will just say “no I’m not gonna let you talk to me like that” which isn’t wrong, but also isn’t actually tough love because they forgot the love.


  • localsend

    I am super interested in this, do you know if it can track versions and support regular backups? I was actually just trying to find out if there’s a way for my phone to sync / backup my documents, pictures, and possibly even calendars and contacts with our home computer while I’m home, especially right when I get home, and maybe on a scheduled basis right before I usually leave for work. I’ve been looking into de-googling and honestly I’m wondering why a lot of my info needs to be stored in the cloud at all? Maybe one monthly or quarterly backup to an encrypted service like tresorit but for the most part I think it’ll be fine to just let my devices back themselves up with each other on my home network?