cross-posted from: https://programming.dev/post/29014124
When I’m working and have a question, I usually ask the ones I know to be knowledgeable and with ample job experience for advice, because they’re the most qualified to give me the best advice.
Sometimes, when I do this, an extrovert who needs to talk will try to answer at the same time the person I asked is answering, meaning I get 2 very similar answers on stereo if that makes sense, but I cannot concentrate on any of the 2 stereo answers.
Sometimes this happens with 3 coworkers: the knowledgeable one I asked the question to and 2 extroverts answering at the same time the person I asked answers.
I hate it when this happens. I’m clearly talking to ONE person, looking at him in the eye. Why do other people feel I’m talking to them, even though I am not making eye contact with them?
I mean, can you guys listen to 2 people answering a question simultaneously and get both answers right?
I’ve started telling them I cannot hear the answer if they speak at the same time and sometimes I have to tell them I’m not talking to them, but to a specific coworker. So far, they’re backing off, but why are (some?) extroverts like this?
To me, the best way to learn something if I’m not reading a book or manual is with one on one conversations: I ask a question, knowledgeable person gives an answer, I write down what I know I’m gonna have to remember and move on. Is this something only introverts do?
I absolutely can’t focus on one person if two are talking about roughly the same thing at the same time. The only way for me to take in any information is unfortunately to apologize to both of them and explain that while I’m glad they both know how to handle the situation I’m asking about, I can’t handle the information overload of both of them explaining it at the same time.
At which point I have to re-ask the same person I asked the first time to explain it.