So my girlfriend apologises compulsively. I find it easy to talk to her about the reasons why she may do that; however, she posed to me a question today which I found a little more tricky to answer:
How do I feel when I tell her to stop apologising, and why do I feel the need to tell her to stop apologising?
It’s honestly something I never gave thought to before. It is a very, very minor annoyance - to the point where I feel calling it an ‘annoyance’ is too harsh - but I don’t actually know why I feel the need to tell her stop doing it all the time.
I’m hoping someone can help me put it into words. So I ask you, Lemmy: how does it feel when someone apologises too much, and why do you feel the need to tell them to stop apologising?
My wife is obsessed with thanking people. It is nice once but every time you so much as fart she is thanking you. No, I don’t need to be thanked 3 times for washing the dishes, once was nice but more than that makes me think you are fishing for something back or need a hearing aid. She even thanks stores when leaving which gets to be a bit much after a while. She also gets very upset if she doesn’t get thanked immediately for giving something which I think makes it more about getting the thank you than the giving part.