• kindnesskills@literature.cafe
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    2 days ago

    [I’m not the one who originally commented]

    I wouldn’t know the difference.

    All I can know and judge on and care about is how they choose to respond, not how they feel.

    And I personally trust people who tell me of their ugly emotions (after we’ve been friends for a long time) more than the ones pretending to be perfect a decade into the friendship.

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      2 days ago

      But the people who genuinely don’t get jealous aren’t pretending to be perfect. The ones pretending to be perfect are the ones that do feel jealous and hide it.

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        22 hours ago

        Feelings if you don’t act up on is fine. Those are akin of invasive thoughts.
        The moment those snide remakrs start: who were you hanging out with? Why are you looking at them? I won’t talk to you if you are hanging out with them!
        Pure hell. So answering your question again: no jealous friend is a burdensome connection that infects your emotions with their insecurities and dependency.