What’s the alternative though? You never see one of your parents until you turn 18? That would be weirder (assuming normal parents not abusive psychopaths) than living in two places.
It depends on the stability that the parents can provide. There are so many ways this can go, that I’m not going to make generalized assumptions, but it’s entirely possible with a system like that for a mother to have sole custody of a child when she is not the more stable option, just because she is the mother. From the sound of it, most parents don’t go to the courts and work it out themselves, which is fantastic, but if both parents want to be in the life of the child, and both are stable and responsible parties, the court shouldn’t prevent that. That being said, I don’t have any first-hand experience with the Japanese courts, and I’m going to stop guessing at how all this plays out.
In a way. It’s also weird for the kid to have effectively a split life.
What’s the alternative though? You never see one of your parents until you turn 18? That would be weirder (assuming normal parents not abusive psychopaths) than living in two places.
It depends on the stability that the parents can provide. There are so many ways this can go, that I’m not going to make generalized assumptions, but it’s entirely possible with a system like that for a mother to have sole custody of a child when she is not the more stable option, just because she is the mother. From the sound of it, most parents don’t go to the courts and work it out themselves, which is fantastic, but if both parents want to be in the life of the child, and both are stable and responsible parties, the court shouldn’t prevent that. That being said, I don’t have any first-hand experience with the Japanese courts, and I’m going to stop guessing at how all this plays out.