They said it’s “threatening violence”, breaking Rule 1

  • Cowbee [he/they]@lemmy.ml
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    Telling someone to “suck your dick” is generally homophobic/misogynistic, and draws on societal shame towards heterosexual women and gay men performing those acts, and submitting to you, for doing so. Being rude doesn’t get removed nearly as much as those kinds of insults.

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        I am not being misogynistic nor homophobic. The only reason dicksucking is usable as a pejorative is to draw on historic sexism and homophobia, and telling someone to suck your dick draws on that social trauma. Telling someone to give you a haircut, for example, is still a service but doesn’t have that social trauma to make it a pejorative, and thus it doesn’t hit like one.

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          You are saying givers of oral pleasure, generally heterosexual women and homosexual men, are doing something that is shameful and traumatic? That’s homophobic and misogynistic.

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            No, it isn’t homophobic nor misogynistic to state that there have been generations of bigotry and sexism. Again, if you meant oral sex in a positive, liberating way, then it would not be a pejorative. That’s why telling someone to give you a haircut isn’t insulting, even though it’s a service.